“Despite a father’s best intentions, society sometimes makes it very difficult for a father to stay closely involved in raising his children. Workplace family programs continue to be primarily aimed at women, and when opportunities for choosing family over work are offered to men, they often demur for fear - based on real experience - that opting to use such “family-friendly” benefits will blacklist them for a promotion or a raise.” —Real Boys, p. 130 by William Pollack, Ph. D.
“No doubt some components of boys’ and girls’ play go beyond the bounds of acceptability and are deserving of redirection or even reprimand. Yet, when it is a boy involved, we seem to forget his need to play, experiment, and fail in order to grow. Instead, we respond as though he is a full-fledged aggressor.” —Real Boys, p. 63 by William Pollack, Ph. D.
“I had assumed that since America was revising its ideas about girls and women, it must have also been reevaluating its traditional ideas about boys, men, and masculinity. But […] the old Boy Code […] is still operating in full force. […] Even in the most progressive schools and the most politically correct communities in every part of the country in families of all types, the Boy Code continues to affect the behavior of all of us.” —Real Boys p. 6 by William Pollack, Ph. D.
“[…] Society places boys in a “gender straitjacket.” Without being aware of doing so, society is judging the behavior of boys against outmoded ideas about masculinity and about what it takes for a boy to become a man. These models (many of which date from the nineteenth century) simply have no relevance to today’s world.” —Real Boys p. xxiv by William Pollack, Ph. D.