Wilhelmina Wang. A kinky, sex-positive, feminist, queer/pansexual, cis girl who currently lives in Hong Kong. I blog here: http://heartbreaknympho.com

Rope marks (HNT)

I’ve been doing quite a bit of rope stuff over the last few months. A new friend of mine who I met in Hong Kong has been giving me some rope pointers, and has also been practicing his…

[T]he research seems to indicate that more kinky women are submissives than dominant. Of course, this doesn’t necessarily indicate anything about the tastes of women who don’t identify as kinky. And it’s probably biased by culture, in that everything from fashion photos to romance novels emphasizes female submission and male dominance. Within BDSM culture, female dominance and male submission are often disappeared, much to the justified frustration of actual female dominants and male submissives. When all you have is a hammer, everything looks like a nail — sometimes including our own psyches and sexualities. *Plus, if the only available patterns for kink emphasize something a person doesn’t like, then that person will probably avoid kink.* Note that in the research I linked to, for example, the percentage of submissive women was higher in samples from within the BDSM subculture than in samples from outside the BDSM subculture … perhaps because many BDSM subcultural gatherings emphasize female submission and thereby alienate women who are primarily dominant.

“Inherent Female Submission”: The Wrong Question — Feministe (via maymay)

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How to deal with annoying Fetlifers

Trigger warning: racist & sexist slurs

A chatlog? Haven’t done one of these in a while. Anyway, here is a chatlog between me and one of my (white, straight, cisgendered, male, top) friends.

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Porn Sites that are sex positive for all folks!

hiohmegan:

I was asked what porn sites are sex positive and friendly to women. Women like all types of porn, all individuals do, so to ensure that I give options that are great for everyone, here is a list of porn companies I recommend. There are some tips for what type of porn you’ll be viewing, which will make it easier to shop for the right visual material based on your tastes. This is just a quick list, I’m sure that there is a lot more out there.

Comstock Films
Features one couple, interviews them documentary style. Usually sweet, loving and lots shots of how this particular couple gets it on. There aren’t a lot of films produced by Comstock Films, but they feature a wide range of “types” of people and relationships.

Candida Royalle Films (Femme Productions)
Perhaps the softest of the porn I’ll recommend, great for those who are nervous viewing porn or individuals who want more of a story line. No close up shots, no rough sex play.

Sweetheart Video
More mainstream, all girl on girl action
They create videos that discuss people’s fantasies, which I think is great. It tackles many people’s secret thoughts.

Sweetsinner Video’s
More mainstream, cisgender/hetero focused films
Made by the same people who make Sweetheart Video, so again, they create videos that discuss many folks taboo fantasies (sleeping with daughter’s boyfriend, etc, etc)

Tristan Taormino-
Makes feminist pornography, lots of titles. I think her Chemistry series are amazing, lots of different folks having sex the way they want to over a 48 hour (I think) period. All types of sex styles, all types of people, reality tv show style.

I should also point out that Tristian makes a ton of How to video’s that teach people how to play and then integrate a play scene of what was described in the educational portion. A few of the video’s she has produced would include:M
Expert guide to anal sex
expert guide to the g spot
expert guide to threesomes
expert guide to female orgasms
expert guide to rough sex

Nina Hartley (actress)
I love Nina Hartley, and while she performs in thousands of videos, she also has a Nina’s How to Guide to Everything. You want to learn how to have sex while pregnant? She’s got it, Want to explore the sexual power of your feet? She’s got a how to. How to have sex with a younger man if you are an older woman? Check. How to peg your man? She’s got the strap on for you.

Nina covers so much, her films and edusexual, half education, half down right fucking. Check her stuff out..

Heart Core FIlms
Made by Good Vibrations company. THey showcase up and coming independent pornographers. April Florres, Dylan Ryan, Madison Young are again, part of their all star team. A nice diverse cast, featuring all types of bodies and behaviors, so there is something for everyone. Lots of artistic flair in these films, especially with the film Dangerous Curves.

Dyke/Queer Focused Porn

Pink and White Films
Famous for creating the Crash pad series…
Amazing folks to work with, they have allowed me to select random individuals for a free trial subscription to their online videos.

Reel Queer Productions-
created by the folks from Good Vibrations. Gotta love Dylan Ryan, Jizz Lee and Madison Young, Courtney Trouble and Billy Castro. All star casts…great story lines, hot sex between people who want to frolic.

Hot Movies for Her.com
Covers everything, everything, everything under the sun. Takes all the films you want to see but makes them available online, you pay for clips of scenes instead of necessarily buying the whole video.

Hope this is helpful and thanks Tufts for asking this question!

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10 reasons why I shouldn’t have had sex, but did anyway

As a preface, I just want to say that I expect you to realize that, obviously, I’m not trying to say that (promiscuous) sex is inherently “bad.” You can have sex for good reasons and bad reasons;…

I’ve been growing increasingly concerned about the monopolizing—and whitewashing—effects FetLife is having over sexuality community discourse. Like a fetish all its own, sex community inhabitants are turning to FetLife instead of their own blogs or local mailing lists to write, debate, and promote their art and events. FetLife is sucking us up like a big black hole, and we risk getting crushed by its gravitational force. […]

For those who don’t know, FetLife.com purports to be a safe space made “by kinksters, for kinksters.” Once inside, you’re ostensibly within the “community’s” walls. Here, limited individual privacy controls means that almost anything you post to FetLife is potentially visible to any other FetLife user. At the same time, anything you post to FetLife is restrained within FetLife’s walled garden; no entity, whether human or machine, peering at FetLife from its outside can see inside. […]

For an individual, FetLife’s primary “privacy” offering is simply that nothing you post will be indexed by search engines like Google. Since there is no way to access FetLife from outside FetLife, it’s like Vegas: what you say on FetLife stays on FetLife. The implicit claim, then, is that the entire container is safe.

However, since all that is required to gain access to FetLife membership is a (free) email address, the claim is farcical on its face. Claiming FetLife is either private or safe for any given individual is like breaking open someone’s back door and then selling them a stronger lock for their front door.

Fetlife considered harmful: the risks of sex ghettoization by Maymay
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subtlecluster:

freesamuel:

fuzzyhorns:

transitionsurrection:

Kimberly Kills, you give me lots of feelings in the middle of my bear belly.

sigh will my obliques ever rock this hard?

ooooooh

Hi.

noms

*delighted shivers*

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